Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body (Proverbs 16:24).
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such there is no law (Galatians 5:22-23).
Welcome to part five of this nine part series. You can click on the links below to catch up on any part of the series that you may have missed.
How to be a Woman who is Clothed in the Fruit of the Spirit:
Part 5: Clothe yourself in Kindness
Part 6: Clothe yourself in Goodness
Part 7: Clothe yourself in Gentleness
Part 8: Clothe yourself in Faithfulness
Part 9: Clothe yourself in Self-control
“But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, offer the other cheek also. If someone demands your coat, offer your shirt also. Give to anyone who asks; and when things are taken away from you, don’t try to get them back. Do to others as you would like them to do to you (Luke 6:27-31).
I don’t know about you, but if someone slapped my face, then I would probably whip out my pepper-spray keychain, and give them a taste of their own medicine.
But, I’m not called to react. I’m called to be kind.
If someone demanded my coat, then I would probably run away from them.
But, I’m not called to run away. I’m called to be kind.
If I loan something to someone, then I would expect to get it back.
But, I’m not called to accuse. I’m called to be kind.
Kindness is a way of being. To be kind, you must transform from your sinful and selfish ways, for the purpose of spreading the gospel.
That’s hard. That’s really hard.
It’s easy to be kind to sweet elderly ladies who bake sugar cookies and give out endless hugs, but it’s hard to be kind to the creepy guy who is always angry and gives out dirty looks.
We need to make it a point to clothe ourselves in kindness daily.
Why do we need to be clothed in kindness?
We need to clothe ourselves in kindness because it is biblical. It’s a command. It’s a prerequisite to spending eternal life in heaven. You can’t be an unkind Christian, that’s an oxymoron.
“If you love only those who love you, why should you get credit for that? Even sinners love those who love them! And if you do good only to those who do good to you, why should you get credit? Even sinners do that much! And if you lend money only to those who can repay you, why should you get credit? Even sinners will lend other sinners for a full return (Luke 6:32-34).
Jesus is asking us to go the extra mile. He is asking us to do what may even seem impossible. He’s asking us to be kind to the worst of the worst. When people think of Christians, they should think of someone who loves everyone, feeds and clothes the needy, takes care of the sick, and are the hands and feet of Jesus.
We need to be clothed in kindness because that is the gateway for broken people to experience Jesus.
Without kindness, we are just like the rest of the sinful, hopeless world. Showing kindness gives hope to the hopeless, and love to the lost.
How do we clothe ourselves in kindness?
- Love everyone
- Do things for others without getting anything in return
- Be compassionate like Jesus
“Love your enemies! Do good to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked. You must be compassionate, just as your Father is compassionate (Luke 6:35-36).
This is much easier said than done.
This means loving that rude cashier at the grocery store. This means loving your ex-friend who betrayed you. This means loving your teenager when they lie to you. This means loving the people who don’t agree with you. This means loving the sick, the smelly, and the “unlovable.”
You don’t know what people go through behind closed doors. You don’t know their struggles, their broken past, or their current state. You don’t know if they were recently diagnosed with a terminal illness, lost a loved one, or going through marital problems.
You don’t know, and honestly, it doesn’t matter if they are going through anything at all. Just love them. Love without conditions.
Do things for others without getting anything in return
We like to receive trophies and ribbons for a job well done. We like hearing someone say “thank you,” or “I appreciate you.”
Well, to clothe yourself in biblical kindness, you have to understand that you may or may not get anything in return. You may do a nice, life changing deed, and not even get a single “thank you.”
We have to put our pride aside and humble ourselves in kindness.
Be compassionate like Jesus
People that were lost, sick, and dying found Jesus through His kindness. Every miracle was performed out of love and kindness, not pride and power.
Jesus is our perfect example. He clothed himself in kindness everywhere He went.
He was meek, helpful, warm, and considerate. He put himself in dangerous, and even unhealthy situations just to heal the brokenhearted and the shunned. His kindness changed the world.
When opportunity strikes to be kind to someone, even if it’s out of your comfort zone, just think, WWJD (What Would Jesus Do)? Let’s be world changers like Jesus, and clothe ourselves in kindness!
Never let loyalty and kindness leave you! Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favor with both God and people and you will earn a good reputation (Proverbs 3:3-4).